Better Networking Tips: Personal Borders And Boundaries

Effective networking is the lifeblood of building a successful network marketing business … as you become a “better networker”, you will find you attract more and more like minded prospects to you.

However, when networking, you have pay attention to certain borders and boundaries. This is the focus of today’s better networking tip.

Beware Of Your Networking Borders And Boundaries

Have you ever had someone get right up in your face when they are talking to you? So close in fact that a letter “S’ results in an unwanted shower? Often when we are out networking, we find ourselves in a loud environment as people try to talk louder to be heard over people trying to talk louder to be heard.

This results in a roar that makes regular conversation difficult.

The temptation in this atmosphere is to get very close to another person so they can hear you and you them. This can result in your violating their personal space which can make them very uncomfortable. This discomfort is heightened when you have been consuming alcohol and the person you are talking to has not.

Each of us has our own comfort zone boundary. This is a space around us that when another person enters we begin to feel uncomfortable.

A good way to relate to this is to remember a time when you had an argument with someone who got right up in your face and possibly even pointed their finger at you. Remember how that made you feel? In most cases it makes a person feel more angry.

In a networking environment it is important to maintain a distance from a person that you are talking to. This distance should generally be about length because most people’s comfort boundary is about the length of their arm. If you find yourself getting very close to someone in conversation, imagine if you raised your arm and that is the distance that you should be from the other person. If they move closer to you in the course of conversation, it is acceptable to them to be closer. If it is acceptable to you, then continue with the conversation at that distance.

You can sometimes tell if you are standing too close to someone if they seem to be moving back while you are talking to them. If they appear to be getting further away from you, do not move to to close the distance. They will stop when they reach the distance that they are comfortable with. Allow them that comfort boundary.

On the other hand, if they turn and walk away, then you know that is your cue to find someone else to talk to.

To be most effective in your attempts to build relationships with others, it is important to keep these things in mind. Remember that it makes no difference what you say to a person if they are not engaged in the conversation. Good observance of boundaries can give you the edge you need to make networking work.